Why are they never sincere in what they say?
Even though we don’t want to make too many generalities, it happens that through bad encounters and relationships that end badly, generalities become obvious. It seems to you that all men need to look elsewhere because there is only one who hasn’t deceived you?
And among your ex-boyfriends, none of them seems to have ever been truly sincere with you? So you may rightly ask yourself why men are never sincere in what they say.
But deep down you know that you can’t put all men in the same basket, that only those you’ve dated are like that. So you have to find out why the men you go out with are wrong, why they are not sincere in what they say.
Mistakes come from both sides.
First of all, you have to keep in mind that it’s not always your fault! There are many reasons that can push a man to go elsewhere, you will see it later. But that doesn’t mean it’s always your fault. Before embarking on a quest for answers, you must keep this in mind. When you realize that in some relationships you did or did not do certain things, which caused him to cheat on you, you can try to change that for your next relationships. But you must never forget that a relationship is a two-way street.
You may not always be at your best, sometimes you may make mistakes. But all women make mistakes from time to time. We are not always the same because we face moments of trial while at other times we move forward in our lives as if on a calm river, carried by the current of happiness. So you should not get it into your head to become a perfect woman at all times. That you make an effort, yes! That you constantly try to control yourself to become the perfect woman, no.
And besides, even if you were the ideal woman, you will not be 100% certain that the man you are with is truly sincere with you and does not deceive you. Why not? Simply because it is not enough to have only qualities to keep a man. It is also necessary that the man you are with is truly in love with you. And you will be able to try to influence his judgment of you, only his heart can make him truly crazy about you. So the wrongs are always shared.
You must not blame yourself for your previous stories that didn’t work and you must not put all men in the same basket.
Why do they need to go somewhere else?
The wrongs are shared, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t ask yourself questions. What drives men to look elsewhere? The lack of love between you, of course, is a good reason. And against this cause you can’t do much. Try to be there for him, to cherish him, while giving him enough space to breathe. Try to be yourself and be the woman he loves… Seduce him again and again. These are your weapons against this fatal reason he might have for cheating on you.
One of the major reasons a man may cheat on you is that he can’t find what he is looking for in your relationship, that he is experiencing sexual frustration. The causes can be multiple: you don’t make enough love to his liking, these moments are not moments of intimacy and tenderness as he would like, you never innovate when you are in bed and it becomes routine… It is to fight against all this that you must be aware that making love to your man is a moment of sharing, of pleasure for both of you, where everyone must feel free. You must establish a climate of trust between you so that you can share everything at this level, to try new things together, to realize each other’s fantasies without fear.
It is also possible that a man may go elsewhere simply because his relationship is not going well, or because he does not feel well.
Here again, routine can be an important cause: if you always do the same things in your relationship, if there are no more surprises or magic to brighten up your daily life, your man may want to spice up his life himself… by going elsewhere.
In the same way, if he does not have the impression that you want him as much as before, if he feels that he is not as attractive as he was at the beginning of your relationship, he may go looking for proof of his seductive potential by going elsewhere. To avoid these situations, the most important thing is that you always try to avoid routine in your relationship, that you always want to seduce your man, even after years of living together.
Why aren’t they sincere?
Once again, remember that there is a lot of wrongdoing involved. Nevertheless, you may be the cause of a lack of sincerity. Not all men take a malicious pleasure in not being sincere, some of them are really reluctant and do this to avoid you suffering too much, without thinking of the pain you will have when you learn it later.
Why would they do that?
Because a man who is wondering about his feelings for you does not necessarily want to tell you right away, sometimes it is better to think about these things quietly on his own. He may also not tell you right away about his changing feelings because he knows that you are going through a difficult time in your life and he doesn’t want to add to them until you are well and truly over it.
So not all men are bad.
But it is true that some have an unfortunate tendency to be insincere, and it is like second nature to them. For those there is no real explanation or solution. If for some it is the fear of commitment that pushes them not to be sincere, others will be simply out of habit. For the latter, apart from being patient you don’t have many solutions to make them change. You will have to take it upon yourself and judge whether you care enough about this man to endure this while waiting for him to change.
It may also be that your man is not sincere with you because he is manipulative and does not want to suffer or risk being alone.
If you realize that the man you are with is like that, the best solution for you is to leave him. Otherwise you risk suffering often and strongly. Remember that sincerity and trust are essential elements for a couple to last. Even if it is difficult, you must therefore learn to leave a man when you feel that the situation becomes dangerous for you.